“Our friendships become deep, and we experience the warmth and caring which results from addicts sharing recovery and a new life.”
Information Pamphlet Number 19, “Self-Acceptance”
Most of us come to Narcotics Anonymous (NA) with few genuine friends and little understanding of how to build lasting relationships. In recovery, we learn that friendships require effort and, like any relationship, can be challenging at times. However, these friendships are crucial for our growth and healing.
Over time, we discover that building and maintaining friendships is a learning process. It involves being present, showing empathy, and sometimes navigating difficult truths about ourselves. The old saying, “The truth will set you free, but first it will make you furious,” often applies to friendships. This honesty can make relationships awkward, leading us to avoid certain meetings or confrontations. Yet, true friends speak out of concern and want the best for us.
Our friends love us enough to tell us the truth about ourselves. They accept us despite our shortcomings and understand that we are still a work in progress. Friends provide a support system that is essential in our journey of recovery. They offer perspective, help us stay grounded, and are there for us even when we struggle to be there for ourselves.
Cultivating friendships in recovery requires active participation. It means showing up, being honest, and reciprocating the support we receive. Recovery is not a journey we can undertake alone; it is through our connections with others that we find strength and resilience.
“Just for today: I will be grateful for the friends I have. I will take an active part in my friendships.”
This affirmation highlights the importance of gratitude and active participation in our friendships. By valuing and nurturing these relationships, we enhance our recovery journey and create a supportive network that fosters lasting change.
Friendships in recovery are not just beneficial—they are essential. They provide the warmth, care, and support needed to navigate the ups and downs of recovery. By actively cultivating and cherishing these relationships, we create a strong foundation for lasting sobriety and personal growth.
Just for today, commit to being an active participant in your friendships. Show gratitude, offer support, and embrace the journey of recovery together with your friends.